Anger Management Blog

Posted on: January 19, 2012

Coronation Street hit the headlines this week when Owen Armstrong smacked his stepdaughter in Monday night’s episode.

Smacking children has always been a controversial and emotive subject. MP John Cumming was quoted as saying that it is better that a child is disciplined than to grow up ‘untamed’. I believe that there are far more effective ways of disciplining a child.

All children need clear boundaries and positive parenting ensures that children are clear about what constitutes acceptable behaviour at every stage of their development. At every age, from toddler through to teenager, children will push their parents and carers to the limit, but this is designed to test the boundaries, and clear boundaries and consistent sanctions actually help children feel safe; a teenager pushing to stay out late at a party may actually be looking for their parent to say no in order to avoid losing face with their peers by admitting they don’t want to GO.

Smacking a child, on the other hand, is an abuse of parental power on every level, especially if smacking in anger. This is both physically abusive and also shows a complete loss of control,...

Posted on: January 5, 2012

Let’s be honest, the prospect of returning to work after Christmas is unlikely to fill you with anything other than dread. In fact, when you team wet and windy weather conditions with heightened workload, increased demand for performance and practically no job security – it is no surprise that January is identified as the most stressful time of the year.

Recent statistics produced by the British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) have found that the extra stresses of the season are having particuarly detrimental effects on the UK’s female workforce.

The survey concluded that stress in women has increased dramatically with 80% of women feeling unsupported, over-worked and insecure in their positions. Worringly, these increased stress levels have resulted in feelings of depression in 60% of cases and anger issues in 43%.

These peturbing statistics raise the question – is the workplace ill-equipped to deal with the needs of women and is this lack of empathy for the female workforce creating the increased stress which leads to depression and anger?

Mike Fisher, BAAM’s Founder, highlights the dramatic...

Posted on: November 29, 2011

xmastree.pngIf Christmas leaves you feeling pricklier than a holly bush, then help is at hand! The British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) is once again helping you have a calm Christmas and beat seasonal stress with its annual Anger Awareness Week, taking place nationwide from December 1-7, 2011.

BAAM has promoted its annual National Anger Awareness Week in the UK since 2000 and has, to date, helped over 14,000 people deal with their anger and stress. During the week’s activities, BAAM will offer information packs, courses and programmes designed to take the crunch out of Christmas. On its site BAAM offers a downloadable ‘Keep Your Cool Kit’, which can be used in the home or workplace to help deal with conflict. This year they have gone further to help you. With their 12 Tips for Christmas you can defuse those all-too-predictable seasonal rows with...

Posted on: September 29, 2011

PRESS RELEASE

Anger is considered by many to be the scourge of the 21st Century – with over-stressed, time-hungry lives and increasing expectations leading the average person to fly into a rage four times a day.

But one anger management expert is not only helping to call time on fiery tempers, he’s also offering crucial help to the victims of anger, thanks to a series of innovative workshops being launched across the country.

The British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) and their nationwide Beating Anger Clinics have just launched the End of the Line – Enough is Enough courses in several cities including Newcastle, Edinburgh, Leeds, Liverpool, Manchester, London and Brighton.

The one day courses help men and women who are living with angry abusers learn coping strategies and a greater understanding of the situation they are dealing with.

They are aimed at real people like Alison *, who lived 18 years with a verbally and emotionally abusive husband before finally having the strength to leave the volatile relationship after he turned his aggression on their teenage daughter.

As Alison...

Posted on: September 2, 2011

I want to use this blog to announce a new course that has been developed by Beating Anger Derby in association with the British Association of Anger Management. It has taken almost a year, a lot of research, two pilot courses and 8 people 2 days of work consolidating the feedback.

Why a New Course?

This came out of a meeting almost a year ago where we identified that there was a pattern of contact developing with our angry clients. The pattern was one of enquiry but not committing until it was almost too late. Its is described in another blog called Danny’s (or Dannielle’s) Story. In the meeting we discussed how we would like to help people before they got to the stage where it was too late. Dealing with the anger in a relationship can heal it and we want to help people.

We already knew that by delivering our Anger Management Training we were helping more than just the person who came to us for help. We help the family that they live with. More to the point, we realised that if we let the pattern of contact but no commitment to change...

Posted on: August 30, 2011

This subject was brought to mind when an article on anger in sports was run on BBC TV last Saturday (25th August). Essentially England’s Rugby team coach was saying anger in sport is not good. The journalists were asking whether a certain amount of anger and aggression is necessary in sport.

What they were really saying was “does removing my anger take away the secret of my success?” This is a question that hangs in the mind of a lot of my clients.

Lets deal with sport first. There are sports where controlled aggression is important. Sports such as Boxing and Rugby spring to mind. Even when I watch Tennis I see aggression on the court as Andy Murray clenches his fist when he wins a crucial point. That, however, is all part of the sport psychology and is well controlled. Even when John McEnroe was famously losing his temper it was all part of the way he controlled the game and his opposing players timing.

Before I go any further lets remember that a crucial part of anger is Stress and the physical components of stress are adrenaline and cortisone. The combination of these two hormones, which are produced as part of the body...

Posted on: August 5, 2011

In The Daily Mail today (August 5th 2011) their reporter suggests that “Teachers should be given shin pads.” This is responding to calls from the main Teachers union the GMB. Click here for main article.

The article goes on to list the offences carried out on teachers in the role by violent and aggressive pupils and discuss the protection they need. It is no coincidence that the teaching profession suffers high levels of stress and depression.

My view, and its no surprise given what I do is that decent Anger Management for pupils with issues would be a really good starts. Follow this up with some really good emotional resilience training(see www.stressexperts.co.uk) such as Dealing with Difficult and Challenging People to...

Posted on: July 27, 2011

I am often asked this question. What the questioner often really means is, are men more angry than women?

I’ll tell you what I know to start with. Our courses are made up of about 40% women. I also know that in terms of the root causes of a person’s anger they can affect men and women alike.

So why are there proportionately less women on our courses?

My informed opinion is that it is a mainly social or societal factors that cause this. Despite the emancipation of women caused by the likes of Emily Pankhurst and the revolution in women’s rights led by those including Germaine Greer true equality does not exist. Women will find it difficult to justify payment and time away from their family for course like ours when compared to their male counterparts. Also, despite theoretical equality is in play, it is viewed differently for a woman to explode with anger as opposed to a man. In reality, simply in terms of whether they are able to express themselves as freely...

Posted on: July 5, 2011

As an organisation, the British Association of Anger Management has counselled many people when anger has been affecting their lives.

When working with individuals who have had addiction in their lives, we have found that, after the initial rehabilitation process, feelings and emotions come to the surface. If left unaddressed they have the potential to affect lives in unhealthy ways.

One of the strongest of these feelings is anger. In principle this is a neutral feeling but how we express it makes it healthy or unhealthy. Unhealthy anger can be expressed passively by being internalised or externally through aggression.

In our experience there are two main triggers of anger in rehabilitating addicts. These are Primary Needs and self-defence anger.

Primary Needs are something that we require in order to succeed, achieve, or even survive.

When these needs are not met, anger, hurt, and fear are activated. It is at this point that our survival instincts kick in. When an individual responds forcibly with anger, underlying that anger will be strong feelings of...

Posted on: June 15, 2011

My name is Mark Urry and I am the director of Beating Anger Bath. I specialise in anger and emotional management and my clinic currently covers the South West and South Wales regions.

My background is the Royal Navy having served 12 years as an aircraft engineer. It was during this time that I experienced the negative effects of unhealthy stress and anger in my life, particularly due to tough working conditions and extended period of separation from my family.

I decided to train as an anger management specialist with the British Association of Anger Management (BAAM) because of the effectiveness and the positive effect the course have had not only on my life but also more than 12,000 individuals who have attended courses over the past 14 years

Mike Fisher director of BAAM, author of the bestselling book ‘Beating Anger’ and a leading international authority on anger management has personally trained me to facilitate a variety of courses.

My courses are designed for anyone interested in exploring and understanding their anger, as well as discovering the necessary tools and knowledge to express it in a healthy, constructive and...

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