I want to use this blog to announce a new course that has been developed by Beating Anger Derby in association with the British Association of Anger Management. It has taken almost a year, a lot of research, two pilot courses and 8 people 2 days of work consolidating the feedback.

Why a New Course?

This came out of a meeting almost a year ago where we identified that there was a pattern of contact developing with our angry clients. The pattern was one of enquiry but not committing until it was almost too late. Its is described in another blog called Danny’s (or Dannielle’s) Story. In the meeting we discussed how we would like to help people before they got to the stage where it was too late. Dealing with the anger in a relationship can heal it and we want to help people.

We already knew that by delivering our Anger Management Training we were helping more than just the person who came to us for help. We help the family that they live with. More to the point, we realised that if we let the pattern of contact but no commitment to change continue we were guilty of helping to prolong the pain for a lot of people. So we committed to do our part and the concept of the End of the Line was born.

The original concept was to run a course that highlighted to those that live with an angry partner that they have choice. Their choices may be limited and difficult but they have choice. As we researched the subject and spoke to those in angry relationships we quickly realised that there was a whole group of people choosing to stay in emotionally and verbally abusive relationships because they believed their partner would change. In fact these people research and look for anything that may help them “fix” the person they live with so that the relationship may go back to how it was when they fell in love.

It was at this point that we realised we have a duty of care. We have a duty to  -

• Educate and inform.
• Deliver the tools you need to make a decision
• Deliver essential coping strategies and techniques that will support you if your choice is to stay in the relationship.
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We have always known that our core client group are in a lot of emotional pain. What we realised as we met those on the other side of it is there is a whole section of the population experiencing more pain, undermining of self esteem and daily fear. We always knew this intuitively but the research hammered it home to us.

It is at this point that I would like to pay tribute to the people who came on our pilot courses in East Grinstead and Birmingham and who gave us their views. We were amazed at how generous people were in their feedback. Some took the time to sit down and write two pages or more of comments. That is how much they care. We hope we do them justice.

So, a year later, a lot research done and we are ready to start helping those suffering in the relationships with the angry. We are ready to help those being damaged by the damaged.

If you live with an angry person then have look at The End of the Line. We could save you a whole lot more pain.